Anyway, back to topic. Yeah, I mentioned this topic because about 20 or so of my friends are married. That could be intepreted as two things right? Either I should get married soon or my friends are older than me. Fortunately, its the latter. Some of them even have babies already!
This kinda rang a bell for me. What is marriage? Is it as simple as two people taking the next step? Or is there something else. Last time, I shared on a radio, a post about soulmate. Hah, you're right. Your friend here is a Radio Host on call. Basically, what I shared is that soulmate isnt miraculously conjured.
What is soul mate? A partner so incredibly wonderful, that you basically can’t live without. Loving, caring, understanding. Once a person says, “You can have many wives, but only one soul mate.” This guys words got me thinking, is the only way to have a soul mate is by 'trying out' women or men and see if he/she is our soul mate? What I mean by trying out is that getting in a relationship with the person and make a decision form there. In my opinion, whether or not your partner is a soul mate depends on us.
I can say this because people’s perception of love is twisted. Why I say twisted? It’s because they only think of themselves. They thought of what they wanted and not what they need, and what they want isn’t always going to make our commitment to our partner last a long time. Even if they did get what they wanted, they forgot to think about their partner. What I mean is that they forgot about the how to keep their partner happy as they think that as long as they have what they wanted, everything is smooth sailing. As a matter of fact, it isn’t. It took a lot of effort to make a marriage work. After all, it’s a union of two people from a totally different world.
Let me tell you the diffrence between want and need so that you get the big idea. Take me for example. What I want is a big house. However, being a student, taking care of a big house is a daunting task. You have to clean and sweep more that you should. Compare it to a dormitory. We would take turns cleaning the common area and the area I have to clean is comparably smaller so that I can concentrate on my study. This is what I need.
Soulmate is a process not a product in my opinion.
So yeah. It takes a lot of effort to make marriage work. Maybe you should ask yourself this question, 'Are you sure?' Not once or twice, but about a hundred times.
So long friends. Have a good one. JBU